I agree with you .. i don't like playing and lose interest fast in ones that just play on line and go slap slap on your knees and do me....sorry not my thing..
But someone that puts effort in both play and posting and advising gets my full attention and makes it interesting enough that yes.. there is that kind of feeling i would like to meet them... and have met a few people such as Doms that way...
Another suggestion i can make is to get knowing in the r/l circle.. Munches are good .. the parties and seeing how you respond there are better .. and the private parties that you may get invited to are even better for finding someone.... I know i have seen this over the years...
Just my opinion
hugs
snow