Just to clarify I don't think he was saying he was married. I think he was saying that the people he was meeting were.
That was my take on it, or maybe I am wrong

However what delia said, I don't think it can be said any better than that.

For me though, I think when you start to look to hard, you don't find anything, it's when you sit back and stop trying to look so hard, that is when the people you seek start showing up.