Caligirl, for what it's worth, I do understand you. People really underestimate how important work can be, not only for the income! It is indeed a sad fact that people who have devoted themselves to their family for some time are considered unemployable...
Don't know how this is in California, but over here we have some opprtunities for them to refresh their education, perhaps that can be of help?
Believe me I know how it feels..when I finished my education there was in fact mass unemployment for doctors...still have the boxes of all the applications. Just don't let them get you down!! by your bachelors degree you show you can be trained and educated. By taking care of your family you have shown your devotion to duty, by being your master's slave also, but I wouln't mention that, lol,
Take care girl...you will find your place..even if it may take a while.