G, you know that I went through a breakup of my own a while back now. It was a rough time, but one of the things that kept me optomistic was that I suddenly had the opportunity to seek out a partner that understood all sides of me.

When you discover an interest in BDSM while in a vanilla relationship, you are often put into a tough spot. Although there are a handful of people out there who have managed to "convert" their partner into a kinky being, most often it just doesn't work. I didn't break up with my ex because of the "kink factor" (he didn't even know), and I was still sad about the relationship ending, but the promise of new possibilities gave me hope.

It was not without some bumps in the road, but I was able to find that partner who understands me, and can can meet all of my needs, both in and out of the bedroom. I couldn't be happier, and I owe a lot of that to you. You gave me the confidence to finally put my feet to the pavement and turn fantasy into reality.

I am not going to say that you are better off without your ex because I think that devalues the relationship you had, and your many good years together. But I do think there are great things out there for you... and probably more than one eager subbie if you so desire.

But don't try to rush things. Take the time to greive and heal. The subs will wait....