A helluva post subwife. You said what I've been trying to put into words for a long time. I particularly like this line:
A Dom is not a God. Just because someone's called 'Grandmasterlordsupreme' doesn't mean you should bow down & call him 'sir'.It takes great strength and good character. It takes the ability to admit mistakes and make changes when there is a problem.
It takes time to build trust in any relationship. When I began my first online D/s thing I made plenty of stupid mistakes. None of us are perfect & I would not consider starting a relationship with a sub who didn't have a mind of her own.
How else am I going to learn?
Tojo