To me you sound like you're doing just fine theoccupier. I don't pretend to know the ins & outs of a 'proper D/s relationship' any more (or less) than anyone.

What you say about limits & safe words sounds great.

I have no hesitation in not suggesting what you should do- you & her have to work that out!

Just take it slow, stay within the limits & give her a night to remember! The rest is up to you. To me, the fact that you're asking for advice, caring & showing concern shows all the signs of a great Dom.

Oh OK- one small suggestion....Take charge!

Tojo