This is smackers hubby here, thanks for all the answers everyone.

Ruby, thanks for finding that info. Very interesting reading I learnt a lot. We both are really enjoying this but want to make it as safe as possible

bunkerchief, so very true. There is something about this that sucks you in and so very quickly. I find my mind wander to to think "oh so bad things" :

TBH, there is a real mental draw on the dom side as well. IRL smackers is I guess slightly dom in our relationship and being a dom for me is not a fully natural state of being. So after our prolonged session I found emotions like guilt etc come through as I played through what I had put smacker through in my mind and asking and double checking she really liked the experience


At least from our play so far I have almost "cured" her attempts to top from the bottom and she is on route to being a good little pain slut