Living A Sugarcoated Lifestyle?

[Ozme52]

I think you're about to hear some rebuttal on your stats b.c. It may be true if you include all the wannabe's posers, and trolls. But the true subs believe they far outnumber the true Doms.

Regardless, it always takes "two to tango," lifestyle or not. It has nothing to do with 'BDSM being ersatz or sugarcoated unless you remove consent...' unless you believe all sexual encounters to be such. The requirement for consent appears to me to be built into just about all the warmblooded fauna in the world... with the female being the one who ultimately chooses. Afterall, the female is the biggest risktaker. She sacrifices more time and life-energy to create, protect, and nurture the offspring...

Human sexuality may not always be about procreation, but the "dance" we dance is certainly rooted in it.

[Tojo]

I think you're about to hear some rebuttal on your stats b.c. It may be true if you include all the wannabe's posers, and trolls. But the true subs believe they far outnumber the true Doms.

Regardless, it always takes "two to tango," lifestyle or not. It has nothing to do with 'BDSM being ersatz or sugarcoated unless you remove consent...' unless you believe all sexual encounters to be such. The requirement for consent appears to me to be built into just about all the warmblooded fauna in the world... with the female being the one who ultimately chooses. Afterall, the female is the biggest risktaker. She sacrifices more time and life-energy to create, protect, and nurture the offspring...

Human sexuality may not always be about procreation, but the "dance" we dance is certainly rooted in it.

Thanks Oz that saves me a heap of typing. Thanks also to Aesop' subwife & Brosco, hitting the nail right on the head yet again.

As for subs being less numerous than Doms- well perhaps if you include 'guys what wanna push some bitch around' yes that may be true. My experience is that for every true caring Dom, there's enough subs to keep him real busy...


Tojo

[bunkerchief]

Regardless, it always takes "two to tango," lifestyle or not. It has nothing to do with 'BDSM being ersatz or sugarcoated unless you remove consent...' unless you believe all sexual encounters to be such. The requirement for consent appears to me to be built into just about all the warmblooded fauna in the world... with the female being the one who ultimately chooses. Afterall, the female is the biggest risktaker. She sacrifices more time and life-energy to create, protect, and nurture the offspring...

You are just reinforcing my point here, that the title of Dom is a misnomer as Doms don't have the power (legally) to subject a sub to their will. Therefore bdsm IS an ersatz experience!