... for people in positions of power and/or responsibility to want to give up all the control they experience in their everyday lives. Many people that are the boss at work don't want to be the boss at home, too.

I can kind of understand this standpoint. It can be very liberating to go to work everyday and bark out orders and make sure everything is done to your exacting specifications, but then come home and strip off your work self and relinquich all that control and listen to someone for a change. Very refreshing, if you ask me.

You will find people that disagree with these ideas, of course. There are people that believe we are born into our roles in life. That if we are meant to be submissive, we are, and if we are meant to be dominant, we are born with that type of personality. I, personally, am not a proponent of this line of thinking, although I will admit it has merit. I'm a behaviourist and I believe that our actions are not only shaped by our heredity, but also by the influences of our environment, family and culture.

In the question you asked is a very good examlpe of this. You work a high-powered job and are in control most of your time, but when you come home you want to settle down, give up that control and let someone else take the reigns for awhile. You will find many people like you, trust me.

The most important thing is to be yourself, be true to yourself and listen to what you feel you need. You know yourself better than anyone else, so why shouldn't you make those decisions for yourself?

I'm pleased that you have started this thread. It's a discussion I have been meaning to have in my own group. Now, I have a little backing to start that discussion.

Thanks.