We have to say that the Secretary is quite possibly one of the best movies out there. It accurately portrays the emotions of discovery. I feel that no one can possibly say that they did not have some conflict when they were discovering their "dark side". The film is based on a short story from a book called Bad Behavior, the story is not nearly as good and the book in and of itself is mostly about women working as prostitutes and strippers, but an entertaining read nonetheless. I have seen a lot of reference to BDSM in pop culture, just look at any music video, but some of my favorites come from the Family Guy!