Quote Originally Posted by Tojo
You have a way with words nikita- good point about developing an attachment to a D/s relationship or the man himself. My pet hate is the belief that 'a Dom is a Dom & a sub is a sub'. We're all people- every D/s relationship is different & I believe very strongly the people are much more important than the type of relationship. To look for a 'Dom' must surely take second place to looking for a decent person, who may also happen to have Dominant qualities.
Bugger the 'rules' -there are no 'rules'. Tojo
Thank you for your comment, Tojo. You are a wordsmith in your own right. Like you said, people are people and all of us put pants on the same way.

As to online relationships, I met someone, quite by serendipity, and I liked him as a person first, before play came into the picture. I can't speak for him, but I wasn't looking, so the man came first.

Also, 'there are no rules' for D/s, not really, except sensitivity to your partner, especially if you are the dom.