If your SO is anything like mine, stories, books, sites and the like will not turn her around easily.
I do know that communication is important, and patience is the key as well. Even though we would love nothing more than to dive into more involved play, we need to take things slow and in moderation.

My boyfriend refuses to read any books, or watch any movies, and will not make even the slightest attempt to understand what I enjoy.

I have made small efforts to talk about things, and so far talking has evolved into a bit of progress. We do try a few things once in a blue moon.

So far I have eased him into my world a little bit at a time, and I try to encourage him to try some small things, so that he isn't completely shocked by it all.

The time will come when we will discuss things in greater detail, and that will be the only way I will know if he will want to really share this with me, or if he will leave me to my own devices.
Your best bet is to talk about how you feel and what you would like and to determine how fast or slow you both want to proceed.