lol and after reading all these posts I am still unsure where and what I am, slave/sub...
all I know and what is most important to me, I wish to serve, to give over mind, body, spirit, heart, smile as my owner would see fit, that would make him happy. His smile, his content, his peace and peace of mind being most important and fulfilling me...yet at the same time I am a sensual person with needs also and enjoyed being tormented and played with...I need this.

Bottom line might be, what is important to you and your Partner and how you two fit into each other's lives, what makes you both happy?
~hugs~