Quote Originally Posted by Ozme52 View Post
Okay... I was beginning to think I was the sole voice with this opinion, that parenting is not about dominance. It's about guidance.
Does a Dom not provide guidance as well?

To go one step further... if one feels one must dominate their children, does that mean one can only raise children to grow up as submissives? Or that a submissive can't raise children?
I have no doubt that 2 of my 3 children will grow up to be dominates... although I am a sub but dominate in the home. How do I know this? Because, just as you are a natural dominate, so are they. That is what their personalities lead them to be. Just a matter of my guiding them differently to get the same result. My being able to stand back a bit further as they choose their paths. The child that displays more sub tendencies, needs more structure, more feedback, etc. to feel safe and secure. So, just as any good dominate would do, I adjust my parenting per child. They all have the same over all expectations but each will take their own path to meet those expectations.

Looked at this way, one begins to see the fallacy in the original supposition.
Guess that is entirely a matter of perspective and how each chooses to define the words in use.