thinking about it, in an over veiw i guess its rather having one way for all the family, regardless of age: we are all human with seasons of vaulnerability, so those who know best protect and guide those who do not and there is no conflict, lessening, force, or shame in accepting it. its what family is here for.

so the children listen to the adults while they grow up and learn and the adults listen to the grown up children when We get too old and senile to think for ourselves anymore.. and neither is humbled for doing so.