Respect, respect, respect! Sir Russell hit the nail on the head by saying this is something that parents and teens struggle with this. I've also read about "unruly" children that enlist in the military, and come home with a more respectful attitude toward their parents. I have no idea what happens when they're gone, but finding someone that has been through military training might help find a path of understanding in a shared household.
This one statement was like an awakening for me! Thank you Cadence. Like you, I pushed my parents. So much, in fact, that they started the registration process for me into an all girls school and sent me to counseling. After a few visits, the counselor told my parents that even though I may push back and reason my out of or into situations, I wanted rules and boundaries. Most kids do, actually. Don't let the "rebel" attitude fool you. It's the rules and boundaries that make children (and submissives) feel safe and cared for.