What does NO mean to you?

[snowflake]

i think especially being a sub i do say no mostly to the things i don't want to admit i like or want that can make me feel embarrassed.. Or when i want to be a tease ...

If you and your Dom/me have a safe word then that is the only word that should stop play... As it is an agreement you already have...

Acknowledging no when it is not the safe word.. will only make the two of you miss out.... thus making a disappointing situation out of one that could be so good...

Just my opinion

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snowflake

[Polaris]

i think especially being a sub i do say no mostly to the things i don't want to admit i like or want that can make me feel embarrassed.. Or when i want to be a tease ...

Yup, same here. No in my case means mostly "omg, please don't make me admit that I actually like that *gasp*". I acknowledge that no dom can be a mind-reader, although they seem to have a sensor for when you messed up (gah!), so I try to not do the "no" or "stop" thing. Personally, I would expect somebody to stop when I say my safeword (of course!), and I voice it when I'm out of my comfort zone and close to hit a limit.

I think, however, that it's better to stop when you're not sure whether it's still okay and enjoyable or not, especially when you don't know your partner very well. Stopping a scene when it is not necessary certainly is frustrating, but it can also shed some light on misunderstandings that might be out there. And being frustrated is certainly a better feeling than having somebody walk over your limits, or not taking sufficient care of you.

Just my two cents, of course!