Honestly? I think the secret of a great D/s union (or any relationship for that matter) may just be that the Dom and the sub spend a lot of time just freaking laughing! Really...just look at it. Sex alone is pretty darn funny. Life can totally suck, but is bearable if one can laugh. My late husband I laughed a lot with black humor because of his illness because black humor still beats black depression. At the risk of getting a huge ***groan*** laughter truly is the BEST medicine. "Peace" ~blizz!