The problem is that most relationships, online or itf, vanilla or lifestyle, start with both quantity and quality. So it's real difficult when one has to cut down on the quantity. How do you ratchet up the quality?

Hold back at first? Unlikely, you're trying to impress.

We discussed it beforehand, that it was taking too much of her time, (in this case.) So we agreed to tone it down... but didn't LOL. At least not at first. But having discussed it, and having agreed to cut back, and not cutting back, let us laugh about it... and then suddenly it seemed okay if we weren't online every night... or for 6+ hours when we were online. Now we keep an eye on the clock to make sure no one will be oversleeping in the morning... and a simple... single email keeps us in each others' minds.

Hopefully the quality won't fade... but that's a different issue. Is there enough "new" in the pipeline to keep us fully engaged? In our case, the answere seems to be yes. I'm sure we'll let you know in 5 or 6 years.