As Sir_Russell has mentioned, safeguards are not just for the sub but for the Dom also.

Think about it this way: Do you really want to have a relationship with someone who questions your safety measures on the first meet?

If you are meeting a person for the first time, they should be falling over themselves to give you any kind of contact info you want, and should ensure that you feel SAFE. After all, what is BDSM if it isn't safe? Food for thought.

If/when Torq and I meet others, or I go and meet others, there are HUGE safety procedures in place. I leave my contact info with Him and usually also with my family. Everyone knows where I am going, how I am getting there, when I will be calling, and what to do if I don't call. Crazy? No. Anal? Perhaps. SAFE? Yes.

A good Dom will appreciate you thinking about your safety and thinking through things intelligently.

If you get crap from a Dom on a first-meet about your safety procedures, RUN AWAY. RUN. If they can't be appreciative of vanilla life safety, are they going to be appreciative of BDSM safety?

'Nuff said.