Having interviewed a number of "experts" in the erotica and sexuality fields, a large number of them DO indeed seem only to be "long termers" with opinions no better than amateurs but greater public exposure through one means or another (i.e. usually through the writing of a book). Making generalized statements when the topic is highly subjective and where experience will vary widely seems a bit of a fool's game, but we all do it anyway.

Age play, role play, fantasy or r/l play should be as creatively satisfying as your sensual partner and you can make whatever public opinion may say about it. if we delve too deeply into the "psychology" of whys and wherefores, we can certainly ruin the entire pleasure factor. If a woman has a so-called Daddy complex why must "society" try to 'cure her" if she gets pleasure from it? Of course, when extreme and unsatisfying that's another matter, but if it works, why fix it?