Morning all. I am a new member here, but not a stranger to the Financial Fetish "scene." I moderate on two well-known boards, mentor on this aspect, and have a Yahoo Group dedicated to fiction in the Money Slavery environment. Below is one of the essays that I have written on this topic that might be helpful.


WORKING TOWARD A DEFINITION OF MONEY MASOCHISM

In the vanilla world, when a man offers women money in exchange for
sexual favors, many contend that both the woman and man are demeaned.
She, because she sells access to her body for sexual contact – and
exposure to disease and attack – and the man because he must pay for
such sexual relations.

But in the D/s world, when a man exchanges money with a woman, and
gets in exchange "mistreatment," it is clearly only he who
is "demeaned." Ideally, the Domme remains in control of the sexual
dynamic, and does not give access to her body, and takes far less
risk than the woman who sells physical "access" contact for money.

Indeed, the exchange between male submissives and Female Dominants
can and does take various shapes, forms, styles and combinations.

$$ It can be "physical," where the male masochist offers his body
and sexuality to the Female Dominant to give pain.
$$ It can be "service oriented," where the male offers "service" to
the Domme, as a maid, servant, slave, houseboy, carpenter,
accountant, etc.
$$ And it can be "material," where the Domme demands certain
material things, which the submissive either gives willingly, or is
coerced or blackmailed into giving.

This last "material" exchange is, to many, the most mysterious. What
IS it that the submissive -- and the Domme, in many cases -- find
sexually exciting about the simple dynamic of being compelled to give
materially to a woman in exchange for what appears to be at the
least "nothing," and at the most, being humiliated and tormented –
silently or openly -- on an emotional and psychological level for his
weakness? Tough question.

A subdivision of this fetish that this group centers on is the giving
of money itself. Not expensive jewelry, or other material
possessions, but cash money, checks, currency, bank deposits, etc.
And not for anything in "return," from the Domme, but in a great many
cases, the fetish gets its power from the simple expectation and
ritual of "giving," or the being "required" to give this money.

This is "financial servitude" at its purist.

As for communication between the Domme and financial slave, sometimes
there is discussion. Discourse. In others, it is almost silent. The
arrangement is made, and the money slave just "does his thing"
without a lot of "massaging."

As for how voluntary the process is, in some cases, it is voluntary
and sporadic. In some cases voluntary and on a regular basis. In some
cases it is "forced" through consensual "blackmail," where the woman
has embarrassing or damaging knowledge of the submissive's personal
or business life, and dangles it over his head, "coercing" him to
pay. Most often this is roleplay, and the Domme has no intention
of "dropping a dime" on the submissive. In other rare cases, it is
set up and expected that this is serious and real. All for the mutual
thrill of taking, getting and/or coercing money from a
willing "victim."

As I have stated before, I know that I am not alone in that my need
to be either indentured to, enslaved by or coerced by a woman into
financial servitude is linked to my paying "penance" for a past sin
or transgression. It is this penance and servitude about which I am
trying to gain balance in my life. And Money Masochism is the thread
that runs through this life.