I do not punish while upset, and that would include anything like a seperation or ignoring. But if I am truly mad I will need time to cool off, and I will say that in advance so that she knows what is happening. Afterwards I often detiremine that the cooling off preiod was more than enough to serve as punishment because of its effectiveness. She knows how upset I have to be to need time to cool off, and ultimately how disappointed I am in her.

Another drawback to not waitng until I cool off is that I might end up punishing her for being right, something that I have time to see if I allow myself to cool down.