I think it is more acurate to describe it as an extreme form of rough sex.

Women love to be desired. I think that if a woman asks a man for sex, it kind of makes it less due to him wanting her. Women prefer to entice men (lingerie is a classic example of this) into fucking them. There is also the "good girl" aspect; being stuffed and pounded against her will means she can enjoy it without feeling "guilty" and still being a "good girl".
Add to that the fact that most women love being pounded hard (and to pound hard, a man must dominate) and rough, violent sex is a core aspect of female fantasies and desires. Generally, Men like to fuck, women like to be fucked (though of course that can be the reverse on some occasions).

Another version of this fantasy might be your husband tying you spreadeagle, gagging you, and leaving a post-it note on your crotch; "She's all yours, do as you wish with this fucktoy".

You hear the door open...a man enters and looks upon your nude form.

He sees the post-it note and smiles wickedly, as you whimper into your gag and squirm in your bonds...