I thought to that maybe he just wanted me to be more active, lol but after I had posted that post. willa dmit that I often use message boards that I am member on to work things out in my head with feed back but isnt that part of why a great many of us are here? it just really threw me for a loop ya know? because I dont normaly get remarks like that especaly dureing sex when my hands are free I am touching and carressing and kissing and licking anything I can reach like I said it just really threw me and I do apreciate all your ideas even if they dont come in handy with Rod they might come in handy some other time with some other guy. the whole idea of takeing a more dom role in sex though makes me feel verry fish out of water.