Quote Originally Posted by slo18
I am normaly submissive dureing sex as I posted in the other post my fuck buddy came by last night, and it was all good. but he said something that got me thinking. I said to him " tell me what u would like me to do " and he replied "have u ever fantisised about me? do what u fatisised about doing" well hell I fantisied about being tied spread eagle , and ice and hot wax were involved. now then rods replie to that was he cant do it he cant cause pain dureing sex. to witch I amnow thinking that that is horse pucky cause the man bites like a starveing vampire! anyways getting off point here. I get the feeling he would like me to be more incharge and more athoritave and i dont even know where to begin. anyone have any sugestions for a fish out of water?
Hi slo18,
Just another odd thought. Maybe this wasn't an invitation to go all Domish upon the dear lad. I mean I wasn't there and didn't hear the conversation other than second hand but it seems to me he might just want you to take a bit more active (though possibly submissive) role in the sexual aspects of your relation.
I mean some subs can take passive to extremes and a fellow just might be looking for you to do things to him rather than having sex be something that's done to you. In any event a bit more conversation might be in order before we break out the figurative (or not) whips and chains.
On the other hand if that's something you're interested in....
well just make sure your all on the same page.
Yours
Mad Lews