ok nother odd thread

[Mad Lews]

I am normaly submissive dureing sex as I posted in the other post my fuck buddy came by last night, and it was all good. but he said something that got me thinking. I said to him " tell me what u would like me to do " and he replied "have u ever fantisised about me? do what u fatisised about doing" well hell I fantisied about being tied spread eagle , and ice and hot wax were involved. now then rods replie to that was he cant do it he cant cause pain dureing sex. to witch I amnow thinking that that is horse pucky cause the man bites like a starveing vampire! anyways getting off point here. I get the feeling he would like me to be more incharge and more athoritave and i dont even know where to begin. anyone have any sugestions for a fish out of water?

Hi slo18,
Just another odd thought. Maybe this wasn't an invitation to go all Domish upon the dear lad. I mean I wasn't there and didn't hear the conversation other than second hand but it seems to me he might just want you to take a bit more active (though possibly submissive) role in the sexual aspects of your relation.
I mean some subs can take passive to extremes and a fellow just might be looking for you to do things to him rather than having sex be something that's done to you. In any event a bit more conversation might be in order before we break out the figurative (or not) whips and chains.
On the other hand if that's something you're interested in....
well just make sure your all on the same page.
Yours
Mad Lews

[Ranai]

Well said, Mad. As mentioned above, ‘If you are interested in doing it’ and ‘subject to his consent’ and ‘It’s allright to say: this isn’t really me, can we try something else?’

slo18, should you and your man turn out not to be interested in any ideas accumulated in this thread, well – somebody else might. That’s the nice thing about this being a public forum.

So what did he say? What are your interests? Is it all still a big question mark? Is it more ‘active submissive’ ideas you are looking for?

[slo18]

I thought to that maybe he just wanted me to be more active, lol but after I had posted that post. willa dmit that I often use message boards that I am member on to work things out in my head with feed back but isnt that part of why a great many of us are here? it just really threw me for a loop ya know? because I dont normaly get remarks like that especaly dureing sex when my hands are free I am touching and carressing and kissing and licking anything I can reach like I said it just really threw me and I do apreciate all your ideas even if they dont come in handy with Rod they might come in handy some other time with some other guy. the whole idea of takeing a more dom role in sex though makes me feel verry fish out of water.