LadyAmanda wrote:

Well, it doesn't really matter too much any more, because I've been dumped!

When I pm'd him to tell him that it wasn't working for me, he wrote back to say that he had already decided that it was stupid of me to cheat on my husband, but he couldn't be bothered to write and tell me so. <sigh>
What Finding Fantasy wrote...

Also, perhaps part of the reason you feel guilty about playing with this male submissive is because he is male. For some reason it is worse to "cheat" with the partner being of the opposite sex.
...may have been even more accurate than she knew. I was going to say much the same that having a same sex relationship feels different when you are also involved in a more traditional heterosexual relationship. Since it is same-sex you don't really feel it is cheating. Perhaps your sub had similar feelings, that knowing you already had another male, your husband, he felt uncomfortable as well.

In my own opinion, as long as your relationship with your husband is good and you are not engaging in risk taking behavior for yourself or him a little online relationship shouldn't be of any consequence. Just make sure the person you are having the relationship with knows the rules too and isn't some flake.

-Drake.