Well, it doesn't really matter too much any more, because I've been dumped!

When I pm'd him to tell him that it wasn't working for me, he wrote back to say that he had already decided that it was stupid of me to cheat on my husband, but he couldn't be bothered to write and tell me so. <sigh>

I have a new respect for people who manage to do this on-line. It was very difficult not to be able to interact directly with the person! There are so many nuances that are non-verbal that it surprised me. I am so used to being right there with the sub, able to judge their real reactions to things, and soothe them with a touch if needed.

Besides, I kinda ignored the fact that I do prefer female subs, just for the experience, and it was the wrong thing to do.

And, just to touch base with anyone who thinks hubby may go along with a 3some? It ain't gonna happen However, the man is very intelligent, I'm sure that he knows more is going on than just 2 best friends hanging out together. It's more like if we don't talk about it, it's not going to hurt anyone. The three of us spend a lot of time together, and, as I said, he's very intelligent, and not blind.