This may be slightly off topic...but...why is it i see so many posts regarding doms or subs married to vanilla spouses and unhappy with the situation to the point where they are involved with others...

from what i have seen, many people out there are praising themselves as being superior in our "lifestyle" relationships based upon honesty....true communication...etc. and then not practicing these same tenets in their marriages...don't the same values hold true for marriage, perhaps even more than any other relationship?