Quote Originally Posted by Caitlin
To punish someone, you don't make them do something, or do something to them that they like. If the person being punished is a pain slut, you don't do anything that would cause pain as a form of punishment, you use an alternative. If that person dosn't like cooking, then get them to cook a banquet feast for example. That is punishing the person, not abusing them.
Exactly. Especially about the MAKING them do something part. No one, dominant or otherwise, can MAKE someone do something they do not want to do. And if they did, then that is certainly abuse!

I rarely use painful punishments. In my personal opinion, a well created and imaginative punishment that fits the situation is far more effective.