domming a male ...

[Lord Thomas]

kittenfemme, I have to take My hat off to you, accepting the sting of a scorpion... WOW! I have to say I am impressed. Oh, and I would qualify that as "hardcore" in My book. your Mistress must have been ~very~ proud of her kitten, I would have been.

I think that you and Finding Fantasy have distroyed any notions of the "fairer sex" being in any way less tolerant to pain.

Pain is a very personal thing. I theorise that no two people, reguardless of gender, expeience pain in the same way. WE all know it "hurts", but then we almost all know what the color red looks like to O/our own eyes. What does red look like to someone else's eyes? No one will ever truely know. We only know that red is red because when we look at something "red" our eyes perceive it as a different color than the things around it. So we learn that that set of stimulous is "red", at least to ourselves anyway.

Pain is the same thing. It is a personal interprutaion of stimuli upon the body and mind from some source. But, and this is important, only you can discover what level of pain is too much, too "hardcore" for you personaly. THough I am a strong believer in the fact that we can decide to endure quite a bit of this stimuli if it pleases us. It transcends gender and is a completely unique experience for us all.

Therefor, "hardcore" is relevant only to the individual. I would suggest that there are very few who would like the kiss of a scorpion out there. Pain is a spiritual, personal part of life and can not be judged by a context of gender or the poulation at large as a thermometer.

OK, enough preaching about pain...

Back to the original question posed by Lady Amanda.... Domming is Domming. Gender really is once again irrelavant. OK, there are physiological differences. Yes, breast bondage will be a limited use in your repertoire, but you can move on to testicular bondage easily enough. Go back to basics, find out what your masculine subby wants and needs and give it to him, just as you would were he a female submissive. Perhaps, your new boy will have a high tolerance for pain and like to see if he can snap your favorite cane with his shoulders, perhaps he is one who does not enjoy pain. Find out and enjoy him as you would any submissive.

Lady Amanda, you are experienced in beign a Dominant. Go with it. Take this as an oppertunity. Take a deep breath and face it with all the strength that your new submissive needs to see from you. You have done everything before, the only difference here before you now is external genitalia to manipulate. Enjoy your new toy.

LT


ps...

If You take this as a learning experience for Yourself, perhaps You could post what You are learning about Your new experience as a Domme, kinda share what You have learned with the rest of the class so to speak. Of course, this would have to be Your and Your boy's descision and none of O/our buisness, but it might be insightful to look back at a new experience as You relate it for others to see.