i have a somewhat high stress job where i am definitely in control. i, however, like giving that control up in the bedroom (or wherever!) because it gives me a lot of leeway to do things i would never do otherwise - it takes the power away from me and i can just enjoy everything without worrying or overanalyzing everything. there are so many things i have done that i would have NEVER done otherwise. looking at me, talking with me, you would never know.