Going back to trust...
Writing assignments can be effective, but then so could having them do yardwork, couldn't it? Having them get rid of a favorite plant or something could be a devastatingly powerful punishment.

The punishment itself is immaterial. I guess that is My real pont here. But in a strictly online relationship, Y/you must, MUST! have the confidnce in the ~trust~ in one another for it to work.

Of course without trust fully from both parties in the relaionship I can not conceive of the relationship being anywhere, safe, sane, conscenual, or even real at all.

LT