Quote Originally Posted by jaro_99
I think part of what you're asking is how you as the top or Dom will 'get into it'. Different people have different triggers or different persona or whatever. You'll find yours. The tip on talking I think is brilliant (I like to talk while topping anyway) because it allows you to experiment a bit with different types of scenario. Is she going to be naughty and need a spanking/caning? is it that she is a slut who will want to beg? Is it that she is so horny she needs a nice strapping to help her control her desires? All these are questions (and more you can think up) you can whisper in her ear (or shout as the urge takes you) as you're building things up - your own reactions and her responses could be a good guide as to how you want to play it out.
See this is actually one of the things I'm apprehensive about. I mentioned I live in Japan and it's a Japanese girl who I'll be seeing. What I guess I forgot to mention is that I'm american and have only been living here for 9 months.

I did do quite a bit of heavy japanese study in college, so I'm pretty darn good at normal conversation. But I'm afraid that I was absent the day we went over how to say "you're a naughty little slut and you need to be punished". Not to mention how weird I'd feel saying that in english anyway. I feel weird just having typed it. It's just not my thing.

The fact that that kind of roleplay is slightly weird to me is probably contributing to why I'm nervous about the beginning. The roleplaying or the verbal scene creation would be a perfect way to make the beginning seem more natural.

Anyway, I'm pretty sure things will go more smoothly and be less awkward than they are in my head at the moment, so I'm probably not as jittery nervous as (I think) I seem to be.

On a side note, I hit myself with my belt today, just to get a sense of what it feels like. It was quite nice. A good clean stinging slap, just like I'd imagined. I can't wait to use it on Satoko! I wonder if it's odd that I can turn myself on by hitting myself with a belt because it makes me think about doing it to someone else . . .

Since I've got no one else to talk to about it, I'm sure I'll be back here to write about it after Saturday. Thanks for the advice.