Dr. Cindy Pam from her book 'Pandoras Box' said that...'The whole thrill of BDSM is letting someone take advantage of you knowing that they wont.'
In my opinion, this statement is an oversimplification of the many terms and concepts within BDSM and doesn't really take into play that it can be more than kinky sex, it can be a whole lifestyle choice. It's got enough half truths to be interesting, but it sets off warning bells in the brain.

BDSgirl has a great way to use the word advantage, yet it's not "taking advantage".

Catlin who asked the question later said,"The quote was in her conclusion of her explanation of BDSM. I didn't truly understand what she was saying, and I don't think she does either."

Finding_Fantasy, TG and gregor2001us have made very good points.

It seems the doctor doesn't understand BDSM, the lifestyle choices we make or why we make them.

I can't see TG, my hubby or any of the doms in healthy relationships "taking advantage" of their submissives, but there are "advantages" everyone can receive from their relationship.

Catlin then says,"At first I thought this statement was an over simplification, and sugarcoated explanation of the attraction of BDSM for those not into this lifestyle, but then, maybe its not."

Well, it's not. It's just wrong for so many of us and she's attemtping to define the motivation for a group of people instead of perhaps the motivations of a single individual. My kink isn't your kink and who am I or anyone else to define what motivates you?

Is this your experience? No.

Are you mearly roleplaying out your desires?
Huh? If yes, then I roleplay in everything I do from running a company to being a mom, etc. The roles we play are how we choose live.

Are you just living a spicy, but sugarcoated fantasy? No. My life is very real to me and the people in it. I'm not a fictional character.

Or is it more involved and deeper?
More involved and deeper than her statement and a sugar coated fantasy.

What buzz do you get out of this lifestyle and why?
I get the same buzz out of doing anything I enjoy doing.

Anyone else want to try to answer Caitlin's questions?