As far as my husband is concerned, he knows what I would like and has just flat out said he could not participate. I do not feel that my self-bondage and chatting on here is a breach of his trust, but he doesn't want to know the details.

As far as others knowing. I am a mom, a girl scout leader and i run a program for people with disabilities. I am not willing to embarrass my daughter or break the confidence my scouts and their parents have in me. And it would definately effect my job. I live in a VERY backward area in many ways and I know what would not be tolerated.