Upon re-reading my post, I realize that the comment about my husband sounded uncaring and kinda glib. I didn't mean it in a "his problem not mine" way. What I meant was that he actually cares so much about me that he would agree to anything I wanted (except to participate in this lifestyle because he can't imagine doing anything to cause me pain, even if it's what i want). If I decide that I really want to do this he will support me I'm sure. I do also realize it's a big step and i won't do it lightly. Probably wait until my daughter moves out (3 yrs), she doesn't even approve of my tattoo (a very pretty delicate anklet)