Are you living a sugarcoated lifestyle? How real is your involvement with BDSM?

Dr. Cindy Pam from her book 'Pandoras Box' said that...'The whole thrill of BDSM is letting someone take advantage of you knowing that they wont.'

Granted, not all people want to be taken advantage of, but there are others who do.

At first I thought this statement was an over simplification, and sugarcoated explanation of the attraction of BDSM for those not into this lifestyle, but then, maybe its not.

Is this your experiance? Are you mearly roleplaying out your desires? Are you just living a spicy, but sugarcoated fantasy? Or is it more involved and deeper? What buzz do you get out of this lifestyle and why?