how would you prefer your first introduction to submission

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Not a silly question...When my dom/hubby and I started playing games, our simple tools were a blindfold, a feather, gentle commands and lots of praise....It's fun to want to jump right in, but I recommend slow with lots of anticipation and communication. If my man started out with a contract and a how to list of "here honey just check off the things you think you'd like me to do to you", I think I would have run away...I also recommend discussing fantasies, turn ons, finding out what your partner likes and doesn't. Sometimes just talking about it can lead to fun experiments. It's also important to find out if they want to keep the fantasy only a fantasy.

I wouldn't have wanted my first experience to be any other way. Soft and gentle, then hot and sizzling!

Ruby....I really like what you said here...such good points....I've been into BDSM for several years but it was mostly online, with some things I tried myself while masturbating....if any of you had ever met my ex bf you'd know why I didn't really talk to him about my desires in this areas...<---lots of eye rolling here....I did hint around to him about one fantasy I have and we decided to try it....it was disastrous!.....I look back now and think that was the beginning of the end of us......not that I mind that we ended because now I'm with Hunter and things sexually are sooooooooo much better

Hunter is the first guy I've been with that I have trusted with this part of my heart....and I didn't really tell him about it.....once while making love I had my hands all over him...he told me to stop because he was getting to close....well OMG who would stop when the guy you were with was getting so turned on from what you were doing?!...not me that's for sure...lol....so he pinned my hands over my head in one of his and then proceeded to drive me completely crazy with his other hand and mouth and cock......Being held down that way (not by any restraints, but by him!) sent me to a place mentally that I'd never been before.....I have a feeling many of you here know what I mean

Hunter is a very fast learner and he doesn't miss much.....he didn't say anything really at the time but next time we were together he made a point of doing that again....pinning my hands that way....but this time he watched me so close....I felt like a butterfly pinned to corkboard and being examined in detail.....during that session he asked me a few questions....things like, "You like this don't you, baby? Being held down like this?".....Afterwards we talked more about it....I still held back some but I did tell him that I did like that sort of thing and that it was very hotly arousing to me....His reply was a rather deep chuckle like he does and a "Yup, I noticed.".....lol.....and now I have him here and he is reading and learning and we are one our way

So that slow easy start is great in my view.....because even though I have had fantasies and masturbating techniques that are BDSM related for years now.....sharing this with a real life partner is very scarey at times....sometimes I feel like I'm one raw exposed nerve when it comes to nervousness

Darkgirl....I've been enjoying reading what you've posted so far about you and your Sir ....sounds like you are having fun exploring new things for both of you

Sir Lanceloth.....I don't think your question is silly at all.....I think your gf is very lucky to have a guy like you in her life that is considering her feelings this early on and starting out slow and easy

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