Quote Originally Posted by Sir Lanceloth
But she doesnt like the word master as it reminds her too much of the crap she has seen on tv (intense torture etc).
Sir Lanceloth, sounds like your right on target. I had to pull this bit out of your last reply. Many, many people don't get into the "master" "slave" name calling. I'm pretty sure that FF and TG have covered this topic in other threads as it comes up fairly often. A rose by any other name...

My own hubby, Master T, lets me call him that in the forums, cause it's more of a nickname. But when we "play" he doesn't like it when I call him master. He'd rather I use his name and make it more personal. It works for us. You'll find something that works for you.

It might be harder to get her to talk/discuss your new activities than you expected. At this stage of the exploration, even simples yeses and no-s can be embarrassing.

"Did you like it when I tied you up?" Might receive a blush and a head nod more than an answer. It all depends on how she was brought up, her views on sex play and whether or not it was openly discussed. Follow it up with a compliment. "You looked incredibly sexy like that!" or whatever you want to say that will help her feel more confident in this role.

Sometimes we good girls like to be "bad", but we don't want to be made to feel "guilty" about what we liked or didn't.

Keep up the praise, patience and doing whatever it does that makes her feel really good.

Darkgirl, I'm so happy for you. It sounds like you and Sir have made huge progress in such a short time. Big hugs and eagerly awaiting your next photo session.