Stick around, RhondaLee, and I am sure you will find that most people here are about as 'normal' as they come. While I don't have the experience of many of the members, the number of idiots I have met on this site I could count on the fingers of one hand. The vast majority here are decent people following their particular kink.

So to answer your question, I strongly advise waiting for the "future someone who is a nice person also into BDSM".