I agree with Tessa. And I think if YOU feel bad about it, that is an important message to you. I want to build up and support any person that has given me the honor to play with me.

If they have problems with my respecting them or not doing something becasue I think it is dangerous to them physically or mentally. Then it will be their choice. But at least I will not be a party to TRULY self-destructive behavior.

There you have my 2 cents.

John