about caning

[slavelucy]

And if we can't have a laugh - or anyway a smile - what's it all about.

Absolutely agreed.

There is a serious point, though. Trust and mistrust go together. There is an excellent piece by James Hillman somewhere on the subject. I don't feel that trust is really alive without mistrust, just as love isn't really alive without hate.

Intriguing. When i did my degree, and was studying in the realm of morality and ethics (and less so in the area of Philosophy of Religion), we considered the notion that one can't know or do 'good' without knowing or having the option to do bad, so i think i understand where you're coming from. Trust is possibly the same, to understand how trust 'feels', perhaps one has to know the antithesis to it, but i don't believe one can experience mistrust whilst experiencing trust with any given person, that's a complete oxymoron.

Gottme! I was being both dull and careless. I have skipped some of the threads, so I am not as au fait with your desires as I should be. :-( Is it all over between us?

LOL! You're funny. i don't expect ya to be 'au fait with all my desires', i'm more than happy to state them..again and again and again...

In what sort of ways are you unfair to your partner.

i'm not, he's unfair to me, on occasion. Only in a Ds, playful sense...you know what i mean, i'm sure...

As for canes. Do you need to jump in the deep end? Why not start with a flogger? That is if you want a taste of submitting to delicious punishment.

Um..you really don't read threads huh?! LOL i have had many a taste of 'submitting to punishment', i'm not, like, just starting out or anything, rather have no experience with the cane. Oh, and i agree, floggers are mmmmm..only when on the receiving end.

sl