Quote Originally Posted by AndrewBlack
Why do you go to these sites anyway? I thought you'd just geared up your r/l thing anyway?
I don't anymore, but FF and I did start out on Adult Friend Finder and Alt. We used to be regular chatters there. At the height of my "popularity" I had over 100 people on three different IMs. We were regular members of the internet "BDSM lifestyle" as it was at the time.

After we met in real life and we realized that chat had lost come of its luster and slowly, but sure people began disappearing of the IM lists. For me, it was fun but probably not very educational. So, I pretty much completely left the chat scene after that, preferring places like this and yahoo groups over chat rooms and IRC channels.