LaJan,
Thank you for the recommendations. I will try if I can get hold of these movies next time the mood takes me for rough sex between men - sounds very interesting.
Gross violence in films can at times spoil my enjoyment. My usual strategy is to pull myself temporarily out of the illusion and think things like 'Great actors, great photography, great make-up department!'.

Project Europa,
Seems like you placed your fantasy in a very adequate context. Apart from being handy for tying someone up, what better sexual symbol is there than a May pole...