Well said BDSM_Tourguide.

Though I have to get in on this "or someone who looks nicer" shiznit. WTF is that?!?! Nevermind that I think blackshadowmast's wife is lucky AND looks really hot with clothespins around her labia, I think submission alone lends an air of raw attraction. The power that's handed to a Dominant when a submissive kneels before them oozes beauty.

That said, I think the eye of the beholder axiom holds true. I'm certainly glad it's not your eye that dictates what passions, rewards, and punishments come my way. Based on your comments here, I'd be surprised if anyone allows you that grace.