Sorry to hear that this happened to you hun. Lots of hugs from me to you! You mentioned that the feelings you two had were of different strengths. I think I know how you feel, as my Master? and I are definitely not on the same level, when it comes to how he feels for me versus how I feel for him. He doesn't feel as strongly, and it has taken me alot of time and alot of deep thinking to finally make the decision to pull away. We did not have what you did. It wasn't 24/7, but he was my first r/l Dom. Unfortunately he only talked to me when he wanted to see me and that was about once a month. Then I would travel only 75 miles to see him for maybe a couple of hours a day. NOT what I had in mind when I signed up, ya know?? Anyway, I finally decided that I was worth more than that. I wrote him a letter and told him I needed more than he could give me or was willing to give me. I also told him I would like to remain his friend (dumb!). I think I should have made a clean break, no friends thing, nothing, cause now he writes me occasionally, or texts me little messages, which just make those feelings come up again for me. He even hinted at us getting together again, but I have been making excuses and hope he will eventually quit trying. I don't want to never see him again, but I know that it will hurt me if I do....so I am working extra hours, going back to school, and making new friends. It is one of the hardest things I've done, but I know it is the best thing for me.
So having told you my life story now , try really hard to just focus on you! What you want and need are important too (a very kind and intelligent Dom told me this!!). And definitely screen the calls...if it hurts to hear his voice, then cut down the volume on the machine....or as soon as you hear his voice, delete the message, at least until you are strong enough to talk to him without the pain. If you want to talk hun, anytime...just PM me! It helps to have a sounding board...believe me I know!!

Hugs