In principle, it is the obligation of the submissive to treat her Dominant or Master with respect and in so doing, to follow his wishes.

In terms of clothing and actions, I believe it is up to the Dominant to determine protocols and what "good manners" would be. My training Dominant desired no make up and that I dress with class and grace, not at all humiliating. Then, he viewed me as a prized possession and enjoyed the "unwrapping" and subsequent humiliation that ensued. His view was that to take this elegant and classy lady to the lowest form of sexual and mental need for his pleasure, was what made him tick.

Another Dominant, preferred I dress more like a slut than a professional, educated woman.

Further, in terms of actions, the Dominant would be the one to determine position, eyes open/closed, noises to be made. In fact, perhaps, a lesson in discipline might be to make a submissive who so enjoys giving oral sex that her eyes close and her passion overtakes her, to keep those eyes open and make no sounds indicating her pleasure? Or perhaps, the Domimant gains pleasure from seeing and hearing how much his submissive enjoys giving him pleasure.

Sometimes, I enjoy watching my submissive achieve intense pleasure at my bidding. Other times, I prevent him from having mind blowing orgasms or may "milk" him so as to provide that release, but in a far less pleasurable way. However, if I don't communicate my expectations or take actions to achieve what I want, who is at fault? Certainly not my subbie.

There are as many timbres to this lifestyle as there are practioners.

When two people find what works for them, then they have found nirvana.