*shrugs* I had a few things that I had to get over, I had some porn obsessions that were making me feel really guilty about. I had started that when I was like 15. I wasn't supposed to be around porn at that age, but anyway, I eventually got over it. I was just exposed to it, and became turned on by it over time.
As far as the sexual fantasy, i've done that with the exception of the being a girl and bribery part. It's somewhat normal. We're all unique in our ways of thinking.