i am so very sorry to hear about your friends ill-health, Eraser, it must be a very difficult time for everyone concerned.

Just one thing though, and i only bring this up as you mentioned (more than once) the 'people who think training is cold and uncaring'.....being as i was one of those 'people', i'd like to make the point that i never said, at any point, that a dominant couldn't have more than one sub, nor that genuine regard couldn't exist between a dominant and multiple subs. What the discussion, certainly on my part, was about, was the notion of 'informal and formal' training prior to personal training, with someone who isn't one's dominant. That's all.

i still question the validity of that, but never does it call into question your relationship with your own submissives, how ever many of them their may be, or whatever the precise nature of your relationship with them is.

In terms of THIS thread, you sound like you're doing everything you can for her....i'm a little unsure of 'duty and responsibility' equating to emotional bonding, but i'm sure that's just a phraseology thing.

Wishing you, her and everyone else in your household strength.

sl